Sexy Links: Feeling the excitement!

Tomorrow is our next hosting night at our favorite club. The theme is "naughty school girls." I've dressed up plenty in my life, but never as a school girl. I am tomorrow night! I have a super cute mini-micro plaid skirt, low-cut see-through blouse, and the heels. Need to shop for some knee high stockings to match. I have really long hair and am considering the pig-tail look - which I've also never done, even as a kid - what does everyone think ... is that a total turn on or off for the guys and gals??

When we host, which we do as volunteers, we tour all the first-timers around the club, tell them the rules, and try to help them feel comfortable, especially if this is their first time in a swing club ever. It's great fun, and even though there's a bit of work invovled, it's very casual and not job-like at all. LOL! We typically start around 8 p.m. and are finished by 10, 11 at the latest. It's also great to be the first ones to meet new members, and we've met some of our best friends this way.

After the hosting is done, however, we get to play! Tomorrow night we're meeting up with Lady Friend and her Mr. from our May 18 post here at http://www.straytogether.com/ for play time after our hosting duties are complete for the evening.

Lady Friend has since admitted to being a bit nervous and unsure last time, but she and the Mr. both say she's raring to go this weekend. Matter of fact, he's told Jack that it's about all she's talked about all week!! She apparently can't wait to get me naked and let the play time begin. ;) And, if it's not enough to have play time at the club, they've invited us to stay overnight with them!!!

Feeling the excitment in all the right places, I am. :> Next entry should be ... sumptuous!

By the way, since some of you have asked, you can find us here
SwingLife Style under the screen name "SexItUp." If you're in the neighborhood, look us up.

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Sexy Links: Oh wow - look what I found!?

I found this cool site with swinger-oriented merchandise! If you've searched around, you know your options are limited. There's not much there yet ... but it looks promising. Have a look!

http://www.zazzle.com/sexitup*

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Real Life Sex Story: It was awesome!!

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Sexy Little Update: So excited for this weekend!

Unfortunately, my and Jack's schedules have been so crazy that we haven't been able to go out for a little more than a month. We have, however, carved out some time this weekend to go to our favorite lifestyle club!!

So, while I don't have much to say today, after the weekend, we'll have some new adventures to chat about. I'm looking forward to some serious F/F encounters. ;) I can't wait!

Fondly yours,
Jill

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Swinger Information: More rules of the road

Jack and I had no clue what to expect when we decided to try out our first swingers club. We had actually considered a nudist sort of experience -- even had reservations at a local nudist camp -- and, after a bit of researched, realized that environment was more about, well, nudity, than it was sexuality. And we were definitely looking for sexuality! So we canceled those reservations, did a little more research, and found out about swinging. It sounded interesting, to say the least. :)

In hindsight, the only thing I would change is that I wish we had done even more research. Not so much about the rules of the clubs and event, but about developing our own guidelines. So this entry is meant to give you some advice on the topic.

Before you head out to your first swingers' event, there is a lot you should discuss with your partner. You should set boundaries together before you head out the door, otherwise, even a strong relationship may be headed for disaster.

• Remember that you are a couple and talk about this before your debut into the swinging world. No matter what you encounter, you're experiencing the lifestyle as a twosome, not a single entity.
• Discuss each other's emotional needs, as well as your physical needs, so that both of you have a full understanding of what to expect from the other.
• Develop a plan to deal with uncomfortable situations. Most couples have some sort of secret code that expresses discomfort and acts as a cue that one wants to disengage from a situation. However you decided to handle such situations, take your partner's cues seriously.
• Take it slow and don't push your partner to go any faster than he or she is willing. The same goes for people you meet along the way. Pushy people are a big turn-off within the lifestyle.
• Set limits, knowing that they can always be expanded later. It's better to start with too many rules and loosen them later, than it is to jump in with both feet and end up in divorce court!
• Communicate before, during, and after each event you attend. Jack and I like to plan our nights out, to some degree, whether it's making plans to meet up with certain couples or simply to meet someone new. During the evening, we make sure we take time out for each other, and afterward, we discuss what we did or didn't like and what we might like to do differently next time.
• Don't expect to play on your first outing because, honestly, your first experiences are likely to be such eye-openers that you may just sit there with a dropped jaw. If nothing else, you can look forward to some seriously head-banging sex when you get home that first night!
• Remember the "no" means NO rule applies to you and your partner, as well as to other singles and couples. It's just as important that you accept "no" from your partner as it is to accept it from someone you just met. Sometimes we tend to push our partners a little more than we would a stranger, thinking that we know their limits. But especially if the two of you are new to the lifestyle, you must be considerate of your significant other's feelings.
• Don't forget to have fun! You are, after all, experiencing something new and exciting, and it should be fun for both of you.

Honestly, your first night out, you may have just one idea in mind: Let's just look and see what it's all about. Then, as you go out more and gain experience, you can add to your needs and desires. Just remember that communication is king (and queen)!

Softly yours,

Jill

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