Sexy Thank Yous: More thanks ...

Thanks to SeXXXcapades for the follow!

It appears that they're new to Blogspot but alreayd have some juicy content. Let's show them a warm, sexy welcome. =)

Fondly yours,
Jill

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Sexy Thank Yous: Thanks for the follow!

Thanks so much to The Oasis: Slut Next Door (I've reciprocated) and Latin Guy (do you have a blog?) for the follow! We'll be sure to keep it interesting for you. ;)

A very vanilla weekend, this one. We're missing some great club adventures, but, honestly, waiting causes the anticipation and excitement for the next encounter to grow!

And our next encounter is in sight - yay! Jack has made plans for us for Friday night. I honestly don't know what those plans are - LOL, I'm so trusting! - but I do know that it's with Lady Friend and her Mr., so it will be enjoyable, whatever we're doing. They are such the sweetest people, and we're so glad to have met them. Great friends in this lifestyle.

We're hosting again Saturday night, June 20, so that's a work night ... an awesome, fun work night, of course. And you never know what can happen when working is in such an amazing, sexually charged environment.

Until next time ...

Fondly yours (that's "fondly," not "fondling" LOL),

Jill

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Swinger Information: More rules of the road

Jack and I had no clue what to expect when we decided to try out our first swingers club. We had actually considered a nudist sort of experience -- even had reservations at a local nudist camp -- and, after a bit of researched, realized that environment was more about, well, nudity, than it was sexuality. And we were definitely looking for sexuality! So we canceled those reservations, did a little more research, and found out about swinging. It sounded interesting, to say the least. :)

In hindsight, the only thing I would change is that I wish we had done even more research. Not so much about the rules of the clubs and event, but about developing our own guidelines. So this entry is meant to give you some advice on the topic.

Before you head out to your first swingers' event, there is a lot you should discuss with your partner. You should set boundaries together before you head out the door, otherwise, even a strong relationship may be headed for disaster.

• Remember that you are a couple and talk about this before your debut into the swinging world. No matter what you encounter, you're experiencing the lifestyle as a twosome, not a single entity.
• Discuss each other's emotional needs, as well as your physical needs, so that both of you have a full understanding of what to expect from the other.
• Develop a plan to deal with uncomfortable situations. Most couples have some sort of secret code that expresses discomfort and acts as a cue that one wants to disengage from a situation. However you decided to handle such situations, take your partner's cues seriously.
• Take it slow and don't push your partner to go any faster than he or she is willing. The same goes for people you meet along the way. Pushy people are a big turn-off within the lifestyle.
• Set limits, knowing that they can always be expanded later. It's better to start with too many rules and loosen them later, than it is to jump in with both feet and end up in divorce court!
• Communicate before, during, and after each event you attend. Jack and I like to plan our nights out, to some degree, whether it's making plans to meet up with certain couples or simply to meet someone new. During the evening, we make sure we take time out for each other, and afterward, we discuss what we did or didn't like and what we might like to do differently next time.
• Don't expect to play on your first outing because, honestly, your first experiences are likely to be such eye-openers that you may just sit there with a dropped jaw. If nothing else, you can look forward to some seriously head-banging sex when you get home that first night!
• Remember the "no" means NO rule applies to you and your partner, as well as to other singles and couples. It's just as important that you accept "no" from your partner as it is to accept it from someone you just met. Sometimes we tend to push our partners a little more than we would a stranger, thinking that we know their limits. But especially if the two of you are new to the lifestyle, you must be considerate of your significant other's feelings.
• Don't forget to have fun! You are, after all, experiencing something new and exciting, and it should be fun for both of you.

Honestly, your first night out, you may have just one idea in mind: Let's just look and see what it's all about. Then, as you go out more and gain experience, you can add to your needs and desires. Just remember that communication is king (and queen)!

Softly yours,

Jill

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Swinger Information: Interested in the lifestyle?

Well, let's start out by saying that the majority of swingers are average people that you would never suspect participate in lifestyle events. We are lawyers, office clerks, construction managers, bankers, hair dressers, and just about any other professional you can imagine. We also happen to like sex and are comfortable pushing the envelope on what society considers to be "normal" in this arena.

Second, some definitions may be of help:

• BI or Bisexual - Someone that enjoys sex with both men and women.
• Bi-Curious - Someone that is curious, interested in or has had limited Bisexual experience.
• Exhibitionism - Showing off in public, involving nudity.
• Full Swap - A couple that enjoys sexual pleasure with others that includes anything up to AND including intercourse.
• Play or playing - Having sexual contact with your significant other and/or another person or people.
• Soft Swing/Swingers - A couple that enjoys sexual pleasure with others that includes anything up to but not including intercourse.
• Unicorn - Slang for a single, generally bi-sexual, female that participates in the lifestyle. Referred to as a "unicorn" because they are so rare.
• Voyeur or Voyeurism - One who enjoys watching.

There are many other definitions, but we're starting out with the basics here. I believe there is a misconception that "swingers" are people who swap partners, period. And perhaps the original definition was finite in this meaning. The fact is, however, that many people who participate in lifestyle events participate without swapping partners.

My partner and I are such a couple. I am a bi female and he is a straight male. I enjoy sexual contact with both women and men (or, to be more specific, my man). I think that women are incredibly sexy creatures. I like watching them, touching them, and playing with them -- and I especially enjoy performing cunnilingus! I and my partner don't think this makes me a deviate ... it's just something else that I enjoy in the sexual realm. He, on the other hand, is quite straight and has no desire to share physical contact with another male. I can assure you, however, that he enjoys watching my interaction with other females!!

As this is our first blog entry, there are so many more things to write about! Adventures in and out of the bedroom; rules of the road, so to speak; clubs to review; and lots more. Please check back, or -- better yet, subscribe -- so you don't miss out on a single post!

Softly yours,

Jill

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