Swinger Information: Interested in the lifestyle?

Well, let's start out by saying that the majority of swingers are average people that you would never suspect participate in lifestyle events. We are lawyers, office clerks, construction managers, bankers, hair dressers, and just about any other professional you can imagine. We also happen to like sex and are comfortable pushing the envelope on what society considers to be "normal" in this arena.

Second, some definitions may be of help:

• BI or Bisexual - Someone that enjoys sex with both men and women.
• Bi-Curious - Someone that is curious, interested in or has had limited Bisexual experience.
• Exhibitionism - Showing off in public, involving nudity.
• Full Swap - A couple that enjoys sexual pleasure with others that includes anything up to AND including intercourse.
• Play or playing - Having sexual contact with your significant other and/or another person or people.
• Soft Swing/Swingers - A couple that enjoys sexual pleasure with others that includes anything up to but not including intercourse.
• Unicorn - Slang for a single, generally bi-sexual, female that participates in the lifestyle. Referred to as a "unicorn" because they are so rare.
• Voyeur or Voyeurism - One who enjoys watching.

There are many other definitions, but we're starting out with the basics here. I believe there is a misconception that "swingers" are people who swap partners, period. And perhaps the original definition was finite in this meaning. The fact is, however, that many people who participate in lifestyle events participate without swapping partners.

My partner and I are such a couple. I am a bi female and he is a straight male. I enjoy sexual contact with both women and men (or, to be more specific, my man). I think that women are incredibly sexy creatures. I like watching them, touching them, and playing with them -- and I especially enjoy performing cunnilingus! I and my partner don't think this makes me a deviate ... it's just something else that I enjoy in the sexual realm. He, on the other hand, is quite straight and has no desire to share physical contact with another male. I can assure you, however, that he enjoys watching my interaction with other females!!

As this is our first blog entry, there are so many more things to write about! Adventures in and out of the bedroom; rules of the road, so to speak; clubs to review; and lots more. Please check back, or -- better yet, subscribe -- so you don't miss out on a single post!

Softly yours,

Jill